I personally am super happy to see that NY has finally legalized gay marriage. It's a great move.
However, I can't help but feel that a lot of comments from people about how "it means nothing unless the federal government recognizes it" are so frustrating. You know why?
The federal government should have no involvement in who you marry. I honestly wish they'd just get out of it, and let the states do their thing. I don't think the government should be able to tell someone they can't marry their best friend (regardless of gender). It's one thing on a state level - that, at least, people have more control over, and it's easier to solve if your state won't recognize it (as inconvenient and sucky as moving is, if you'd do it for a great job, it'd be worth it if marriage was important enough).
One of the things that REALLY made me happy is that there were Republicans pushing for this. Roy McDonald won me over for not only being sensible, but also for saying "fuck". Made my day! It's not just Democrats or Libertarians that understand the importance of freedom of marriage. I just am hoping more Republicans get the courage to stand up for what they really believe, even if they only agree with it because they don't give a crap either way!